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Day Thirteen

November 19, 2025 By Pamela Miles 4 Comments

 

Your writing prompt: Family always...

Your practice blessing: We’re not connected: we’re One.

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  1. Eunsoo Kim says

    November 26, 2025 at 9:50 am

    aware; quiet; lingering
    My writing went many different directions. I feel loosened up through this program and I would like to continue and expand in coming months. While I am living in Korea now, I could still feel Thanksgiving and that gives me a sense of calmness and peace.

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    • Pamela Miles says

      November 26, 2025 at 10:39 am

      Gratitude isn’t seasonal; it’s always uplifting!

      Detail the experience of being looser so that you can notice quickly when you start to tighten and come back to yourself.

      Let this be your new set point. How’s that?

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  2. Emma Duvefelt says

    November 19, 2025 at 4:13 am

    Grief. Alone. Self.
    My family has always let me down. This heart writing was filled with grief. As I wrote, insights from the previous prompts and heart writings surfaced. I have been let down, in part, because of having poor boundaries.

    I always equated true loving with not having or needing boundaries. As I wrote, it became clearer to me that is a dangerous proposition.

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    • Pamela Miles says

      November 19, 2025 at 8:57 am

      Unconditional love is unlimited and ever-renewing. It holds boundaries with grace and ease, appreciating that’s an act of service.

      Love doesn’t demand letting people walk all over you. That’s not very loving, isn’t it?

      The belief you had about true love means no boundaries might be part of a spiritual bypass habit. We generally do what’s easiest for us.

      Maybe there was a time that honoring your boundaries seemed more painful than standing up for yourself — or something along those lines.

      Can that time be over now? Can you just decide that to be so, and then practice keeping your commitment?

      Keep in mind that commitment isn’t only for your own good; it’s for the good of all, it’s an act of non-violent resistance to that which binds you. It’s the commitment to transcend, which we do by being present, feeling the feels, and watching them dissolve.

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